[He nearly tried to pull away at that, but he had to hold firm if he wanted Leo to keep talking.]

I just told you. If you don't know who you are, it's up to you to chose who you want to be.

[It almost sounds like he actually knows what he's talking about. Of course Elliot had to make decisions about who he was in his life as well, but they were nothing like what Leo was going through. He knew that, but he still stuck by what he said.]